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Anayo Nwaosu

WHY THAT NNEWI LADY MARRIED YOU

By Anayo Nwosu

Nnewi parents’ first preference is for their daughter to marry an Nnewi man not necessarily because of proximity but to prevent shock arising from clash of the culture the girl is used to and that of her suitor’s. The parental resistance of a daughter’s marriage outside the town is essentially protective.

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An Nnewi husband naturally has same attributes as the bride’s father or brothers. Surprises are limited and can be handled in a way well known to all parties.

It is a huge decision for an Nnewi girl to marry “onye mba” meaning a man from another town. Some neighbouring towns namely Oraifite and Ichi are not regarded as “Mba” as Nnewi has a common paternal ancestry with them. Together with Nnewi they are called Anaedo or Agbaja.

Any man from another town who successfully marries an Nnewi girl should know that it was a difficult decision for the girl.

She must have braved it.

It is difficult to sell ị nụ onye mba to parents and relations. They feel that the girl is taking a risk.

An “outside” inlaw should not take for granted this step of faith of the girl. It must have been love.

The subsequent love extended to our inlaw after she has finally married to an Nnewi girl should not be misconstrued as if there was never a quarrel or dissension before the marriage was allowed to happen.

I overhear some men lament that Nnewi girls dumped them after a promising courtship. It happened because of many factors discussed hereunder:

WHY PARENTS INSIST ON NNEWI HUSBAND

The following are the reasons why parents prefer Nnewi suitors for their daughters:

1. There is a saying that “ọgọ bụ chi onye” meaning that “an inlaw is the saviour of last resort”; that whatever your inlaw can’t do for you, no other person can do it for you.

It is a common practice for sons-in-law from Nnewi to transform and change the economic fortunes of the members of their inlaws’ family. This is done to make the wife feel happy and to continue being a good wife.
So many fathers-in-law would commit a huge financial resources to make their sons-in-law very successful to ensure that their daughters are comfortable.

In fact, at marriage, our daughters are properly settled through a tradition called “I du ụnọ” whereby the bride is even given a house and all that she requires to live in a house, including a car. This is the daughter’s share of her family’s assets. What is given depends on the deep pockets and generosity of the bride’s family.

2. Historically in Nnewi, our daughters are never sold via marriage neither were they required to change their maiden surname. We say that “ha na-aga ije di” meaning that they are on a marriage mission. It was like a lease transaction whereby the title remains with the original owner but the husband can have the use.

I heard my mum born 1932 being called “nwa ọkpụ Nnewichi ” or “Nwaanyị Nnewichi ” and my uncle’s 4 wives called with suffixes of their villages.

Before Christianity secured its tap root in Nnewi, the corpses of our daughters were returned to their fathers’ houses for burial.

3. Experience has shown that families of non-Nnewi husband gang up against our daughters whenever our daughters start making the husbands to practise success assuring behaviours like:

a) Insisting that his husband’s siblings should be financially responsible instead of crowding her home and depending only on her husband without future plans. This she believes, pulls down a growing man.

b) Vocally saying her mind to the hearing of her husband’s relatives especially by discouraging her husband from engaging in a family project that does not make economic sense using her background’s experience.

c) Exercising territorial control. At a point, especially after bearing her own children, an Nnewi woman takes control of her home, eliminating wastages and determining who visits her home. Her children needs to be trained!

CHARACTERISTICS OF NNEWI WIFE

The following are the attributes of an Nnewi born wife:

1. PRESSURE ON HUSBAND TO EXCEL: There is every possibility that a husband of an Nnewi woman shall be successful in life. In fact, the lady must have sniffed the traits of possible success in her suitor before she agreed to marry him. The guy must have exhibited some attributes of an Nnewiness to even impress her.

She would whip her husband into line if he deviates by using a combination of nagging, complaints, going out of her way to seek for persons who could help the husband to succeed. They can also manage a home.


2. WISDOM: Being that an Nnewi girl grew up seeing her brothers and father succeed, she would’ve imbibed some success enabling attributes. She to knows why his other brothers or relations failed and wouldn’t want her husband to repeat time tested mistakes.

Under her watch, her brothers would discuss business strategies and see them executed. Her mother must have also engaged in one business or the other. She saw the techniques of wooing customers.

Bringing her experience to bear in her husband’s house may be seen as being audacious. Does she care? Mbanụ! When she has kids.

3. NOSE FOR BUSINESS: Every Nnewi person irrespective of s*x has excellent selling skills. Right from childhood, we learn how to go extra mile to satisfy a customer and how to identify customers’ needs and providing them. Our people have nose to smell money from afar. It is inherent.

4. FIERCE SUPPORT FOR HUSBAND: An Nnewi woman would do anything to see her husband succeed. Her mother must have told her that “Di bụ mma nwanyi” meaning that a “husband is the glory of a woman”.

She would always present the husband as hardworking to earn maximum respect and support from her siblings and to prove that she didn’t make a mistake in straying and suffering by marrying outside Nnewi.
She would work extra hard to earn money to support her husband even if it means becoming a distributor of her brothers’ product lines.

5. PROTECTION OF CHILDREN: Nnewi women don’t play with the welfare of their kids. If the husband becomes incompetent or incapable, an Nnewi wife takes over and becomes a bread winner. She knows that the future of the family is secured when the children are doing well.
She does not mind even selling her clothes, doing menial jobs and trading to see the children through education or apprenticeship.

6. COMPETITIVENESS: Our women are very competitive. They benchmark their progressive friends and ensure that they also progress. The husband cannot rest until he imbibes success engendering attitudes.

An Nnewi women is ready to confront and chase away distractive friends of her husband. She won’t spare her husband’s siblings with entitlement mentality. “You must fund your enjoyment”, she believes.

Lazy sisters-in-law and brothers-in-law of an Nnewi woman find a Jezebel in her. For her, everybody must work hard and become independent so that everybody would be in a position to make proportionate contribution at the time of economic emergency.

7. FAMILY-ORIENTED: An Nnewi woman can donate her kidney to her brother without even seeking permission from her husband. Not even love or marriage can turn her attention away from her roles and duty of care to her parents and siblings. Don’t bother discussing her attention to her maiden home. It is a waste of time.

8. FIDELITY: A typical Nnewi woman is a one-man woman. She is very proud. She may agree to cross fertilisation for conception purpose only if her husband insists. Sleeping around is seen as a shameful and a despicable act. Prostitution is not our value. An adulterous woman is poorly regarded by an Nnewi woman.
But, globalisation has affected this virtue in most Igbo towns, Nnewi inclusive.

BEST FIT HUSBAND FOR NNEWI WOMAN

The best fit for Nnewi woman is an Nnewi man or a man with attributes of an Nnewi man. If you are not from Nnewi and an Nnewi girl agrees to marry you then you must be lucky.

WHAT MAKES AN NNEWI GIRL PREFER NON-NNEWI HUSBAND

The following could make an Nnewi girl to outside the town:

1. GLOBALIZATION OR TOWNSHIP FACTOR: Due to co-mingling in the township, church and in schools at home and abroad, the relationship barriers are being pulled down.

People from different cultures and orientation get so close in work place and areas of residence to the extent that they would start considering marriage. Proximity is a factor in love. University classmates tend to espouse modern orientation that tears the shackles of culture. It happened to me.

Nnewi has lost many girls to more educated and religious men from other places. Some of these girls later realise that there is more to marriage than education and religious convergence after few years of marriage.

2. FATHER INFLUENCE: Some female children of rich Nnewi parents may be so averse to wealth to the extent that they would to travel far in marriage.
They overhear their mums complain about their father’s frequent business travels. Due to business commitment, Nnewi men are usually not at home. The wives raise the children.
This class of girls prefer middle income husbands who would always be available. They are the romantic ones.

3. ADVENTURE: There are very young girls who just want to experience new things. They can marry anyone but may not stand the heat of culture shock. They run home often.

4. GRADUATED FRIENDSHIP: There are few cases when a long-standing friendship leads to marriage. Age may be a factor. An ageing lady from Nnewi finds in a struggling man from another town a mutual partner. She would reckon that they can struggle together to succeed.

CONCLUSION
All Nnewi girls are not angels but they are unique.

Some people are responsible for giving birth and nurturing young millionaires and trail blazers.

Women are responsible for training children in Nnewi while men make money.

Therefore, if you want your child to be as successful as an Nnewi man, and you feel up to it, present yourself for appraisal and consideration as an in-law.

Nnewi women as priceless!

They are mothers of great men!

Ụmụada Anaedo ọ ụnụ nwe aka a!

Happy Mother’s Day to all daughters of Anaedo at home and in diaspora!

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